Relationship difficulties

Relationships are an integral component of happiness and well-being. However, some find it challenging to develop or maintain their relationships. Although relationships can be loving and meaningful, they can sometimes leave us confused, miserable, and empty.

At times, our relationships may not be fulfilling our needs, which may lead to anger and resentment in our partners. In some cases, our relationships may feel one-sided and problematic. Perhaps you're unconsciously repeating the same patterns in your relationships and hoping for a different outcome, which can be disappointing and unfulfilling over time.

Our relationships frequently mirror the relationships of our parents; therefore, if fighting, bickering, and poor communication were normal, you may be modelling these behaviours in your current relationships as a result of your upbringing.

Perhaps your relationship dynamics are influenced by your attachment style, commonly, early experiences of insecurity and abandonment lead to an anxious attachment style. It can show itself in relationships with others in the form of ignoring one's own needs in favour of those of a partner or feeling unworthy of love. 

When a child's parent or primary carer doesn't exhibit concern or attention beyond supplying basic needs like food and shelter, they develop an avoidant attachment style. To preserve the peace and their carer nearby, the youngster ignores their own difficulties and wants.

If you are discouraged about your relationships, I will provide a confidential space for you to express your needs and voice your concerns, which will help you make sense of your relationships and encourage you to find out what your needs are to make a healthy relationship work for you.